My best friend Kaci introduced me to one of her best friends. His name is Ryan, and he’s all sorts of wonderful. When Kaci was staying with me for a few days, she began to Skype with Ryan one night. The connection was freaking out, but I heard his voice for two seconds. And what did I hear in his voice?
An awesome sense of humor, a brotherly personality, and self confidence. I don’t know if I’ve told y’all this, but confidence (especially self confidence) is something I find EXTREMELY attractive.
So anywho, while Skyping with Ryan, it was apparent that we were flirting with Kaci right there, she even called us out on it! We’ve been texting and Skyping ever since that night, and we have made plans for Kaci and Ryan to steal me away tomorrow and take me to Houston for a few days.
I can’t tell y’all how excited I am. I’m feeling something new, something greater than what I’ve had before. I don’t find myself thinking, “This is too good to be true,” but rather, “This feels true, and it’s good.”
Now, I will say for now that there will be distance involved between us, and I’m incredibly positive that there will be an “us” if there aren’t traces of it already. I’ll give y’all more on that later, but it’s not much to worry about.
This is so exciting!!!
So, time for a BIG catch-up on what has happened in the life of Sam.
Let’s start way back at the beginning of this month, November 1.
It was my friend Jeff’s 21st birthday that day. His at the time boyfriend had planned a surprise “kidnapping” and dinner for him. The plan was simply to blindfold him, tie his hands behind his back, and take him to Carino’s for dinner.
I was waiting in the lobby of Bruce Hall, my residence hall, for the secret meet-up time. While waiting, some of my friends began to play Twister, and I said, “Oh heck, why not?” I took off my shoes and began playing. I was in a game of four people, and after a few twists and knots it came down to two people: me and a guy named Meilo. Well, throughout this game my right arm loved to find it’s way to be place right in between my legs. Once I noticed this I almost fell from laughter. At one point I finally got my arm out from my legs, and Meilo’s body, on this turn, rotated so that his face was…basically in my crotch. OH THE FUN OF TWISTER!!! We started jokingly flirting with each other during the game.
Eventually I won the game of Twister (success!) and began to meet up with the kidnapping group. Meilo, who I just met playing while playing a game of Twister, knew the at the time boyfriend of Jeff and tagged along. Our flirting didn’t stop at the end of the Twister game. Because of the number of people going, I got a ride to the restaurant with Meilo where we continued to flirt. We even flirted at the restaurant. We even exchanged phone numbers and made all of the jokes. ALL THE JOKES! Jeff had his first (legal) drink there, and was most definitely buzzed. He can’t hold much liquor we all learned. On the way back to Bruce, I was getting cold in the car and asked Meilo for his jacket (which he was not wearing). He let me borrow it, and I put it on in glee.
When we got back to the dorm, the four of us (that I have mentioned so far) played a round of Quelf, the greatest most random board game ever!!!! Meilo was laughing the entire time at the pure randomness of the game, and everyone was giggling at Jeff’s buzzed efforts to play the game. It was quite hilarious!
Well, eventually I had to go to bed and everyone left. I got to my room and just smiled, for I was still wearing Meilo’s jacket.
Meilo and I continued to hang out afterwards. The next several days were were hanging out together. But during the first day after we met, something pretty serious happened.
I was in the lobby with Jeff and was texting Meilo. Now, it’s important to know that Jeff, even though was in a relationship, has been and still is very much in love with me. However, because of certain circumstances that had happened the first week of college, Jeff and I will never date. Because of this, he has done a few things to try to deter me from people who have caught my eye and etc. Well, he asked who I was texting and I told him it was Meilo. His next statement threw me off guard, and luckily there were other good friends around that made for the perfect recovery. He said, “You know he’s trans, right?”
I did not know, and could not form a solid response. In my effort to form a response, which came out something like, “Okay…” my best friend Kaci had truthfully said, in the commotion that was just beginning, “It doesn’t make a difference to Sam.” Gosh I’m glad she knows me so well, because I couldn’t say that myself at the time from the shock. I would have much rather learn directly from Meilo, but didn’t.
Fast forward to about two days later, and I was hanging out with a group that included Meilo for the day before I left for home for the weekend. During that night, Meilo pulled me aside and said he had something to tell me. I knew what was coming, and he didn’t know that I knew. He nervously said, “I know we get along really well, and I hope what I’m about to say doesn’t change that and that there’s still a chance that you’ll like me. Sam…I’m trans.” I looked at him, smiled, and said, “Yeah, I know.” He gave a sigh of relief and then almost hurriedly asked, “Did someone tell you?” ”Yeah, someone did.” He just gave me a HUGE hug and told me how much it meant and how incredibly nervous he was. We each left that night with a big smile, and I think that’s the night I finally returned his jacket.
Fast forward to after I came back from Austin, and Meilo and I were hanging out that Sunday night. We were being all flirty and cute and stuff, and Jeff had asked, “So, are you guys official yet?” Meilo and I just kinda looked at each other. I had said, “Ya know, that sounds good to me. What do you thin Meilo?” He was smiling and responded, “Sounds good to me, too.” We put our hands together and just smiled at each other. What happened next was totally unexpected.
Jeff said with a big grin on his face, “GGGAAAAAAYYYYYYYY!!!”
We all burst out laughing, it was absolutely hilarious.
Fast forward to now, and it’s been just over two weeks of being official. I’m not going to go into vast details of our relationship, but it’s been absolutely wonderful.
On a side note, I’ve always been a huge supporter of making sure that the T in LGBT is not silent, and those who have followed me for a while have probably noticed that. I have always wondered how I would react to finding out that a guy I was crushing on was trans. I was worried about that situation for so long. What I do know for sure is that it doesn’t change my view of them, at all. And now I’m in a relationship with an absolutely wonderful guy that happens to be trans. I do wonder how things are going to progress, but that’s normal with any relationship. I can say this for sure: Meilo is always going be a great friend if anything does happen to our relationship. He’s a fantastic guy, and I’m so proud of him. :)